Bridal Bizarrity - Just Say No
The bad news is that they are discovering the merchandising hell that is the Wedding Industry. Catalogs and marketing mailings have begun to appear, dropping out of the mailbox like snow in summer, offering an dazzling array of ways to separate a bride and groom from their money in the name of "The Perfect Wedding." Clothing, invitations, decorations, favors... the list goes on. And on. And on.
And of course, they have no intention of stopping short of messing with the ceremony! Unity candles, memory candles, and other bells and whistles packaged and sold as "meaningful expressions and symbols of yer luuvv."
The latest craze: "The sand ceremony." For only $65 US (plus shipping), you and your soul mate can have "a beautiful reflection of your marriage and the blending of two lives." Pardon me if I am doubtful that layers of overpriced sand in a jar are equal to this task.
Here me clearly, prospective brides and grooms: for a wedding, you need an officiant, one or two witnesses (depending on your state) and each other. The rest of the stuff is frill, and should be sorted through with restraint and extreme prejudice (A personal bias from the clergy: extra symbols added to the liturgy are only necessary when the liturgy itself is inadequate!)
If you want a "beautiful reflection of your marriage and the blending of two lives," then work at staying married. Take the "sand ceremony" money and enjoy an evening out-- or better yet, buy some bubble bath and maybe some new bedsheets, and stay in.