posted by Jane Ellen+ at
1:01 PM
Thoughts, observations, and the occasional sermon from a transplanted Episcopal priest, wife and mother.
Ado in Mississippi
AKMA's Random Thoughts
And Also With Raisin
Bruce's Idle Wanderings
Costly Grace with the Archer
Fr. Jake Stops the World
Fr. John and Thomas a Kempis
Gord, Following Frodo
Heather's Rambling
In a Godward Direction
Inner Dorothy
Jeff's Sacristy
Jo(e)'s Page
Justin's Wanderings
Kathryn, Good in Parts
The Kitchen Door
Larry's Raw Edges
Life with Cliff
The Lovely Wife
Mark's Family Letter
MaryBeth at Terrapin Station
Nueva Cantora
Padre Mickey's Dance Party
Preacher Mom
Preludium
Quotidian Grace
Rambling Rector
Raw Edges
Rebel Without a Pew
RevAbi
Rev. Dr. Mom
Reverend Mommy
Reverend Mother
The Reverend Mother, Jennifer
Reverend Ref+ Todd
RevHoney
St. Casserole
SiBlog
Singing Sophia
Songbird
Stone of Witness
Theospora
Telling Secrets
Trevor's Limature
Tripp's Conjectures
Volume II for kzj
Wes' Dawg Days
Domestic Violence Services
Episcopal Peace Fellowship
Episcopal Relief and Development
Feminists for Life
National Religious Campaign Against Torture
St. Mary's Services
Episcopal News Service
Get Religion
God's Politics
The Lead
Thinking Anglicans
Conservative Blog for Peace
Titus One Nine
Daily Office Lectionary
Desperate Preacher
The Lectionary Page
Speaking to the Soul
The Text This Week
Diocese of Spokane
All Saints' Episcopal Church
(my congregation)
Diocese of Northern Indiana
(the home place)
Purdue University
(alma mater I)
Seabury-Western Seminary
(alma mater II)
Church of Jesus Christ, Reconciler
University of Chicago Hospitals
(CPE site)
St. Philip's, Jackson, MS
(Plunge site)
The Disseminary
Indiana Blogs!
Wikipedia
WSI
Zimmerman Art Glass
Beauty Tips for Ministers
Cake Wrecks
Diocese of Wenchoster
Holy Observer
Larking About
LOLCats
The Onion
Onion Dome (Twisted Orthodoxy)
Post Secret
Reverend Fun
Ship of Fools
There, I Fixed It/a>
Yarn Harlot
5 Comments:
Sadly, no. No one can explain that to you. This is because it is not rational.
Sure. It's called "sexism."
As to why sexism, though... I revert to Micah's answer.
It's either a) Fear, or b)you silly girl, who let you out of the kitchen?
Sometimes my 13 year old daughter is spot on. Her answer of "That's just wrong" seems to fit quite nicely here.
Double standard. Don't get me started.
I have a rant that I so need to post somewhere, but it would be impolitic to do so.
Speaking as a woman, I have come to realize that the matter is more complex than [just] sexism. It has to do with perception of authority. If you are perceived as having authority, then you are "decisive". If you are perceived as lacking authority than you are simply "controlling" or "pushy" or probably "rude".
It may be unfair that women (in many situations) are perceived as lacking authority where they feel they have earned this, however if one wishes to get any where, one needs to recognize this, decide whether getting the job done is worth the hassle of getting buy-in from folks who don't recognize your authority, or whether you can manage without them.
When I was a resident, it irritated me that male residents could be "decisive" with the nurses, but my orders were "pushy" etc. However I could not manage without the nurses, so I learned to get their buy in by explaining myself, and achieving consensus. Since becoming an attending, I find that they recognize my authority, and I do not need to have consensus in order to get buy in. However in other aspects of my life (notably the church) I make a point of getting buy in, because obviously I have no authority other than that which is loaned to me by my rector, and there is no reason why anybody should take me seriously, just because of that.
It may not be "fair", however it is necessary to accept that not everybody will accept one's authority simply because one is (pick one) the one who was put in charge - the smartest - the best educated - the sexiest - whatever.
If one cares about getting the job done, then one does what it takes to achieve this.
Shari
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